High Rate Of Divorce Not Limited to Nupe Kingdom But A Global Problem
From: Hussaina Idris Manarakis
Nupe Novelist
Marriage is the coming together of a man and woman as husband and wife. To make a marriage successful, peaceful, and long living; the couple must unconditionally love, tolerate, forgive, and trust each other. They must share their pains and happiness in order to keep their marriage strong.
The following could be the cause of breaking homes;
1. Lack of trust and barrenness are some of the many factors contributing to the high rate of divorce everywhere.
Because many couples no longer value their marriage vows, having little or no trust for the other partner can lead both parties into frequent disagreements, verbal abuse or exchanges, and, in worse cases, physical abuse, which will later lead to separation.
2. Divorce can sometimes occur when the couple gets fed up or impatient with each other's excesses and can no longer tolerate it.
3. Lack of love and poor communication in the marriage could also lead to divorce. When the couples don't practice good communication skills and sincere love in their marriage, it causes lots of problems that could lead to divorce.
4. High expectations could lead to challenges in a marriage if the expectations are not met.
5. Forced marriage and love for material things (worldly) could also lead to divorce.
Possible Solutions for this Uncultured Act
Although divorce is permissible by religion, even Allah (SWT) frowns at it. It is best not to see or look at divorce as the best 'answer' to a hurting marriage, but seek out ways on how to prevent divorce. In achieving this, there are several ways that can help you tackle marriage challenges and, in turn, avoid divorce:
1. Understanding each other and identifying the loopholes in the marriage. Seek knowledgeable guidance about the rights and responsibilities to be accorded in marriage. Be more observant of problems or changes that might be the cause of issues in your marriage, and try to tackle them maturely.
2. Talk about your needs if there's any problem at all. Sometimes couples end up having issues with each other simply because they feel like their needs are being ignored. And just because you live in the same house, does not mean that you can read each other's minds.
3. It's important that you share whatever you are expecting from the relationship. Only through that can you find appropriate solutions to issues that can lead to divorce.
4. Spend as much time together as possible. For a marriage to be healthy and last long, it is necessary the couple spends quality time together.
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